Wednesday, January 11, 2017

The Happy Jar!

It's gray, windy and it's been raining non-stop since I woke up so I thought today would be the perfect day to tell you about my Happy Jar!


It was around Christmas time. I had just gone home for the holidays and was working on my essay when one day, a message from Celine 씨 popped up.

"I think I'll buy a jar for the new year. Then I can put all the small things I do in it so that I'll remember them, you know! Kind of like making New Year's resolutions but where you make a jar that you can fill with experiences" - Celine 씨

...
And from that day the idea evolved.
The idea is to make either a note or a little slip every time you do something worth remembering or something that makes you happy, write the date on it, and then open the jar later on. Celine seems to make notes after specific experiences and so far I have made slips whenever something has happened that has made me extra happy. So really it's subjective and all about what you feel is worthy of being put into the jar of happiness.
We talked about then opening the jar around the end of the year to look back before entering the new year. Specifically, I plan to open mine on the very last day of the year and make a video where I read them all, think back, and end the year on a happy note.

I wrote my first slip on January 1ˢᵗ, when I woke up to check my phone and I saw that my first message was a voice recording from my friend Larry. He said that it was something he did for all his close friends for New Years and hearing that made me feel really appreciated.

"That is going in my jar!" I said.

That answer confused him so I told him:

It's so easy to end the year thinking it was bad just because one has had a bunch of bad moments in the days leading up to new year. But if you open a jar like this it can remind you how happy you also were during the year. And I think that's really important so you can have a good start of the new year - feeling optimistic and satisfied.

Larry loved the idea and has since joined in! I know that he has at least 10 slips and 8 of those are because of me he said. I know that one was because I filmed greeting my grandma and it made him smile. So again, what we decide to put in the jar varies a lot.


One day Larry told me he was afraid that he'd become over zealous about it. He didn't want to overuse the slips otherwise they'd become less special. 
I thought about it and said:

If it makes you feel good then why not? I think it's all up to how you feel in that moment you are wanting to put in the jar. We tend to think of the past with nostalgic eyes and romanticize our memories. So for me, to not overdo it, I only allow myself to write happy moments from the day. Meaning today I can't write about something that happened yesterday because, obviously, I would have written it down yesterday if it had made me happy enough. It's sort of like a rule ... but it's only there for you to not spoil it for yourself. 


After that, Larry said that if it were important enough for him to stop what he was doing and write it down, it'd be jar-worthy. He said that he'd like to put his slips in order and make a collage/timeline out of it. The possibilities are endless!


So far I'm super happy with our decision to do this. My mood has gotten a lot better and I feel like I appreciate and am more aware of the little things happening during the days.

When we make slips, we tell each other. I felt super hyped when Celine sent me a picture of her first slip and when Larry screams "MY JAR!" in the midst of a conversation become he's deemed something jar-worthy. 


Now, whenever I look at my jar, I feel excited for the next days to come and I can only hope that you feel inspired to make your own jar after reading this post.


⋆ ✧ Let's fill our jars and share our happiness on December 31ˢᵗ! ✧ ⋆

Monday, January 2, 2017

New Year Resolutions 2017

Hey again! Good morning!

I hope you all had a great night the night before yesterday and a pleasant start of the year.
Hopefully you still have the same amount of limbs as you had three days ago!

Yesterday morning I woke up full of energy so I thought I should just as well get this year started with my first blog post. I ended up growing too tired in the evening to finish it before today though. Woops. 

For the past 4 years I have been giving myself 10 New Year Resolutions (because I like that number) in the beginning of the year and then looked back the next to see whether I could live up to my own expectations or not. It's become a fun little tradition and a way for my ever so unsatisfied expectant self to keep track of how much I grow throughout the year.

I have usually kept these posts on my personal blog but this year I'd like to put them up here as well. For no immediate reason.

In keeping with tradition I'd like to reflect over the resolutions I made for 2016:

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...................................................... 1.  Travel to 2-3 countries
...................................................... 2.  Own less materialistic items
...................................................... 3.  Go to the doctor, dentist, optician etc. and have everything checked
...................................................... 4.  Take measures to be more content with my looks
...................................................... 5.  Strengthen ties with and see my family more often
...................................................... 6.  Find a new hobby
...................................................... 7.  Do something I fear
...................................................... 8.  Become a donor
...................................................... 9.  Attend 3 cons
.................................................... 10.  Be a part of the cosplay show



Well that looks... uhh. Let's discuss this.


I definitely lived up to my first goal - I went to Korea twice, once in January and once in June. Let me also add that this was the first time I traveled completely by myself without having someone accompany me on the way back and forth and without staying with friends. It's been something I've wanted to do the past few years but at the same time something I was scared of. Check off #7 too!
Right after coming back from Korea I spent a week with my family in Italy. In October I went to Vienna with my Celine 씨 and our eonni, Charlotte 씨.

Although I barely wrote about my con experiences this year, I went to both J-Popcon, GEEKcore, and Comic Con. J-me and I had planned to perform for this year's GEEKcore now that we couldn't do it for SVS the year before. But once again I think we managed our time wrong. GEEKcore snuck up on us and before we knew it, it was time for the con.

I actually got rid of a bunch of stuff  this year and that's also something I'm happy about. I gave my sister, mom, and grandma a lot of BODY SHOP products that they found much more use for than I would have and I also almost emptied a big box of drawing utensils that I handed over to a second hand shop for children. It was a rewarding feeling to know that I could both make people happy and avoid unnecessary waste.
Emptying out my closet was yet another think I would have liked to do but didn't find time for. That'll be a job for this year.

This lack of time... or should I say prioritizing my time wrong also resulted in me not getting started on a new hobby - but I did find one so I'll count #6 as half done.
Becoming a donor was quickly done online so I'd proud to say that I also reached that goal. Also, a week ago or so my mom asked me to help her become one as well. I'm content to know that I influenced my mom like this

Aaaand another thing I didn't do was to have a health check. My doctor was in one part of the country while I was in the other and every time I went to visit my family, I'd forgotten about making an appointment 2 weeks ahead with the doctor.
Speaking of family I REALLY DID TRY to strengthen ties with them and I think it was working. I went home whenever I could but with everything that's been happening the past 2 months... I'm afraid a lot of it has gone to waste. My parents had what I categorize as a really bad divorce and now I have a hard time talking to both my parents and my grandparents. Everything is chaos.
Ughhh

#4 might have been too vague. I think I had bigger things in mind when I wrote it but now that I look at it again, I question myself when I have done enough to live up to this. I bought a really nice facial cream and for Christmas I got an oil for my hair after having done a bit of research on how to strengthen it. We'll see this new year if it works out.

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That was last year. Now let's make the jump to 2017.
I'm not exactly sure what I want to focus on this year.
I feel like I spent my time horrible in 2016 - always studying and not enjoying life enough.
This year I want to spend my time as wisely as possible so that I on January 1st 2018 can look back and think "Wauw! I did so much in just a year?!" Yes, that is my goal.

And.. after all this chaos I've been reflecting a lot and realized how important it is to value what we have while we have it. Because in the blink of an eye it could all disappear one day.

Wooooops sorry! I'm getting emotional now. It's been a couple of hours since I started this post and things happened.

Anyways.
I'm giving myself until the end of January to change these but for now, here are my
New Year resolutions for 2017!


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................................................................... 1.  Travel to 2-3 countries
................................................................... 2.  Own less (and clean out wardrobe!)
................................................................... 3.  Complete health check
................................................................... 4.  Sing every day
................................................................... 5.  Be active on my Youtube channel
................................................................... 6.  Appreciate the little things more 
................................................................... 7.  Go on a cosplay photo shoot
................................................................... 8.  Blog more
................................................................... 9.  ???
................................................................. 10.  ???



Do you have any New Year resolutions?
If you haven't made yours yet and would like some inspiration, check out my old ones from
2013, 2014, 2015, and 2016.


Saturday, December 31, 2016

2016 Highlights!

AaAaAaaaaaaAAH IT'S nEW YEAr IN JuST A FEw hOUrS!*
*in UTC +1 at least. For those of you living in time zones ahead of me, HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Also, before I start my post I'd like to say THANK YOU!
I saw just now that my latest blog posts have gotten a lot of attention lately and it really made my morning! I very much appreciate that you take your time reading my 'work' and I'd just like to say that I'll work hard to put more effort into my blogs in 2017 so I hope you will hang around to witness it ^^
Now the post!


I was ready to write off 2016 as the worst year in my life so far because this last part has truly been THE WORST PERIOD I CAN REMEMBER RIGHT NOW. 

But then, while taking a thoughtful shower, I remembered having read about our brains' negativity bias. I can't explain the exact reason why but it's something about our brains remembering bad things better than the good ones on a 1 to 5 scale. Meaning for every bad thing happening to you, you need five good ones to even it out.

So after the past two months of having very few peaks on my emotional rollercoaster going almost straight south, it's no surprise that I'd think like this.

I'd hate to look bad on 2016, though, and think that I wasted an entire year on being unhappy. Was 2016 really that bad? I thought to myself. Wait... was it this year Celine and I went to Korea? Yes! 

And then all of a sudden my mind was filled with happy thoughts!
All the major good memories from this year came back to me and now I'm sitting here, my spirits lifted as much as they can be given the current state of things.

I've seen many of my friends say the same (especially in our class group chat as I'm writing this post) and it's all over the internet: 2016 was a horrible year for some and a lot of us are ready to just leave this year in the past. But before we do that LET'S NOT FORGET THE GOOD MOMENTS WE HAD. Let's re-discover and treasure these so we can have a happy start of the new year tonight!


Now that my long intro is done, I'll share some of my highlights from 2016!

Celine and I went to Korea!
I actually have yet to finish the blog posts about this ;-; That'll be one of the first things on my to-do list next year!
But yes. Celine 씨, my awesome classmate, and I had been talking about going since we were going to have a 1.5 month winter break and that it'd probably be a good idea to go around January to maintain the Korean we had learned so far as well as enjoy a cool trip together. And it really was an awesome trip! We did a lot of interesting things and our friendship grew a lot stronger after that. Like I said after going to Paris with Maria in 2014, the saying "friends who travel together stay together" really is true!
Although I have no blog posts about our adventures yet, I did manage to make a video with all of our recordings that I am actually super proud of!


Aaaand I went to Korea again!
In June I went back to Korea and this time all by myself. It was a milestone for me to reach since I had never traveled completely alone like I did this time. I arranged everything by myself, flew alone, and stayed alone. Or actually, I shared a room with 3-4 other girls at a hostel but we never went out together. At this time Jasmin was still in Korea so we got to hang out! Also Philip and John were still living in Seoul at that time so I got to meet them as well AND Kong, which made me really happy ~☆⭒
When they were busy I went to explore on my own or have a beer with people from the hostel. I made a couple of new friends got to speak a LOT of Korean, which was also one of my purposes of going. I even met a student from Yonsei, one of the universities that my own university has an exchange agreement with, and he ended up giving me a little tour around campus.
I was actually there on my birthday and I truly enjoyed being able to spend my day surrounded by some of my best friends ♡


Yuki visited!
In August my good friend Yuki from Singapore came to visit!
He was going to stay with his aunt in America for some time and decided to drop by Denmark for 3 weeks to hang out with us ^_^ When I say us I mean Chris and I because Yuki stayed with us the first week to save expenses. We went out and around Copenhagen to show him the city and enjoyed watching him return to child stage once we entered the LEGO store. It was also hilarious to play "Yuki tries to pronounce Danish words!"
Every night we had movie nights back in the apartment.
Yuki is one of my most supportive friends and we always talk about how it could be fun to perform together or have model gigs together. Aaah, some day~



Comic Con Copenhagen!
For the first time ever, Comic Con came to Denmark!
Until short before the event, the hype train had been going at full speed. I mentioned in an older post that I was going to be cosplaying Tinkerbell as part of a big princess group but I never heard from them again. I don't know what happened to the project. I had been working hard on my cosplay, though, and wasn't going to let all the hours I spent on it go to waste. So for Comic Con I went as Tinkerbell, J-me came as Fire Elsa and Starfire, and our other friends Andreas (maid café), Kristine, etc. came as Ratcliffe and Pocahontas one day and had a whole Asterix & Obelix group cosplay going on the day before. Somehow Jasmin and I met a bunch of other Disney princess cosplayers and decided to walk around together for a while and people LOVED IT! They took SO many pictures!! The girls we talked to were absolutely amazing and since then we have kept contact.
Even while on our own, our cosplays brought us more attention during those two days of the con that I think I have gotten my entire life. One day we spent half an hour moving 5 meters because people stopped us for pictures and interviews. We were interviewed for several websites, filmed, and even in the newspaper after the first day of the con!
The amount of support and.. .admiration from others (especially towards my wings) was just so overwhelming. I felt so appreciated and it sparked the flame in my cosplay heart!



GEEKcore + became a J-Popcon trustee!
GEEKcore was also a great time!
I think that was actually the best con I have had this year. The con was smaller than last year but the people were just as awesome. We had the best maid café team I could have ever imagined with both known and new faces! I had convinced Chris to join as a butler and after the con he was all over the place! He'd expected nothing from the con but fell in love with our team as well. I can only hope and cross my fingers that our next con, J-Popcon 2017, will include all these FANTASTIC people and that we will have such a great experience together again!
This year, Allan, the owner of GEEKcore wanted the café the be game themed. So we had a very talented girl make Portal cakes. Once these babies sold out, Andreas handed Jasmin and I a pen and then we proceeded to run around and write on every poster for the café that the cake was a lie!
I wanted to include this other highlight under this point because they're both cosplay related. I don't remember exactly when but this year I became a J-Popcon trustee!
It means I have more responsibility now within the maid café and that I am one who can take over control of the café in case our leaders are busy!


Writing contest in Vienna!
The Monday after GEEKcore, Celine, me, and a 4th year Korea student, Charlotte, flew to Vienna, Austria to represent our university in an international Korean essay writing contest hosted by Sungkyunkwan Univeristy! I actually did write about this on my blog so I won't go into too much detail. It was an interesting experience and I felt like my knowledge in Korean was challenged greatly. Spoiler: we didn't win. But I would still go again and have a second chance if I could!


Attended a charity event
One day in class I got a message from one of the princesses we met at Comic Con, Stine. Someone she knew was hosting a charity event and they had asked her to ask a few cosplayers to come by and entertain the kids there and so she'd decided to reach out to me, Jasmin, and a couple of other Disney cosplaying friends of hers. 

Being part of something like this was another goal of mine. At events like this I feel like all the time I spend on cosplays and research pays off in ways that I could never have dreamed of before. I hope to be able to participate in more of this in the future!


Nominated for exchange by UCPH + scholarship
As a Korea student it should come naturally that we'd like to go abroad and to do that we'll have to apply twice: the first time we apply to our own university, the University of Copenhagen, to hear if they will send us overseas. If our application is accepted, we'll have to apply to the foreign university that our own university allowed us to apply for. When we wrote our application, we could write 3 priorities. For my first priority I placed Yonsei university as I had been interested in their subjects and the school itself. A few days before Christmas our applications had been processed and I got a mail back saying that UCPH has allowed me to apply to my first priority AND that I had been selected to receive an Internationalisation scholarship - something that we were told about a third of those applying for exchange would receive.
Celine 씨, Isabella 씨, and Johanne 씨 all were allowed to apply for their first priorities as well (Celine 씨 and Isabella 씨 for Yonsei too!) and it turned out we had all received the scholarship!


Went to Sweden!
The ray of light in a dark time. From December 25th to 28th I went to Sweden and stayed with Philip. Those were some of the best days I've had in a long time. A lot of stuff has been happening with my family the past two months and when I've felt like no one understood me and the world was against me, Philip was there to talk and comfort me. I cannot even begin to describe how great it was to 'get away' even for just a few days. I also made a new friend so that was kewl. Shout out to Joar!
Things haven't gotten better at home since I returned but on the day I left, I felt like I had more energy to tackle whatever I was going to be met with.
I can only hope he understood how grateful I was for his help 


And that was my year!
Now it's 5pm and I'm still in my pyjamas so I will end the post here.
Please enjoy the night. Come to terms with whatever bad things you've been met with this year and embrace yourself for 2017!
Here's to hoping that 2017 will only get better!

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